This word is the key to a happy relationship
"Thank you." A simple word that makes you feel good when you hear it.
So why do so many couples rarely use it?
William James, an American psychologist said: The deepest principle in human nature is the desire to be appreciated.
Appreciation is a gift we give to others that costs us nothing! And giving just a little bit of it through effective communication helps improve the relationship.
So why are so many of us stingy when it comes to showing appreciation? Are we too busy? Very fair? Or just too stubborn and emotionally ungenerous?
At home, we don't appreciate it - we wait!
We say things like, "If you really love me, you should do this."
Where is the appreciation for our loved ones? Do you expect them to wash the dishes and take out the trash because it's "their job"? Everyone wants to be recognized for their efforts. So show some appreciation. It's a very easy habit to get into.
Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
Remember: once is not enough. Every time they take out the trash, bring you your coffee, say that powerful word - "thank you."
Know what to skip.
There is another side to showing appreciation. It is as important as verbal recognition. Knowing what to compliment is one thing... but knowing what to overlook is also a way of showing love.
William James once said, " The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook." He was right.
A wise person takes a step back and looks at the whole situation. They put aside their own needs and wants for a moment and make space to see the other's wants and needs as well. They ask themselves: What is going on here? What do we really want to happen?