What if it's normal to have one favorite child over the others?
One of the biggest taboos of parenting is having a preference for one child over another. It is not about the measure of love, but about affinity, about a closer connection. According to a study by the University of Massachusetts Medical School, it seems that most parents really do have a favorite among their offspring. Yes, even those who swear they don't share or who mention that expression: Which finger doesn't hurt if you cut it?
Mothers and fathers usually hide this fact in order not to incite jealousy among children.
Shumica ia arrijnë ta fshehin mirë, pasi sipas këtij studimi fëmijët e patën të vështirë të gjenin kush ishte i preferuari i prindërve.
Rezultatet e studimit tregoojnë se nënat në veçanti kanë dobësi ndaj fëmijëve që kanë vlera të ngjashme me to, që angazhohen më shumë me familjen.
Pavarësisht nga arsyeja, hulumtimet tregojnë se shumë prindër kanë të preferuarit e tyre, pavarësisht nëse mund ta pranojnë apo jo. Radha e lindjes është ajo që luan një rol të rëndësishëm në zgjedhjen se kush është fëmija i preferuar.
Sipas sondazhit të YouGov, prindërit që pranuan se kishin një të preferuar treguan një preferencë të madhe për më të vegjlit në familje.
Parents tend to favor a child who is more like them, reminds them of themselves, or represents what they see as parenting success. Younger children are most likely raised by a parent who, with time and experience, is more confident and skilled at raising children.
In addition, many parents are wracked with guilt, knowing that showing a preference will have a lasting impact on their child's self-esteem. However, the concern is not entirely unfounded.
Children who grow up in families where they feel they are being treated unfairly may feel worthless. Feeling like the black sheep of the family can lead to fear and insecurity.
That's how it was and that's how it will be. Parents have their favorites that they will keep trying not to show.