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Why is the word 'But' the one that destroys relationships little by little every day?

Why is the word 'But' the one that destroys relationships little by

Sometimes you are surprised when your partner says: You don't respect me.

Maybe you didn't tell him anything. You just kept saying "but"...

After all, a "but" is not an effective way to have a happy, long-term relationship.

Some examples when this word ruins the moment.

"I love you, but I wish you were more romantic."

"I respect you, but you have a tendency to be more polite than you should be."

"You are beautiful, but recently you have gained a few kilos."

"I want your opinion, but here's what I've decided to do..."

The "but" in each of these statements essentially erases the compliment or appreciation that precedes it.

"But" is almost always a word of exclusion and denial.

Why do we use the word "but"

Many of us use it to say what we really think with the intention of softening the harshness. Despite this effort, the focus is on what we are disappointed or critical of.

Your partner sees this. So try not to use it anymore. If you have something to say, say it directly.