Why I don't want to go on vacation with friends who have children
2026-03-24 14:15:16
TiranaPost
A woman has sparked a heated debate on Reddit after asking users if she was wrong to turn down an invitation to a vacation with her old friends. She admitted that she didn't want to spend a long weekend talking only about "marriage and kids."
The woman said she has a group of eight friends, with whom she has been friends for more than a decade, since her school days. Although they now live in different countries, they meet up a few times a year for a weekend together. She stressed that she is happy with her current life: she is single, is dating someone and is not sure if she wants to have children. On the other hand, most of her friends are married or in long-term relationships, and some of them have children or are expecting.
She declined to participate in this year's trip, saying it was too much money for "three days where all they talk about is engagements, marriages, and children." Her friends, she says, show no interest in her life, except when she's talking about someone she's dating. In fact, at a recent meeting, she was forced to listen for more than an hour to a friend talking about her breastfeeding plans, even though she wasn't even pregnant.
She added that these meetings are not only boring for her, but also make her feel bad about herself, and are also expensive. However, she said that she is happy with her friends' choices, but she thinks that this is not the right time to participate in these kinds of weekends.
Her explanation hurt one of her friends, while some accused her of not being interested in their lives. She defended herself by saying that she has attended important events like weddings and baby showers, but these commitments are both emotionally and financially costly.
She also highlighted the lack of reciprocity in friendship, indicating that when she invited her friends to her birthday, they declined due to commitments with work or partners.
Many Reddit users agreed, pointing out that the problem isn't the topic of conversation, but the fact that the relationship has become one-sided and without mutual interest. According to them, the lack of reciprocity shows that the friendship is no longer balanced and that it is giving more than it is taking.
