I passed the quarantine to my parents and I realized they both hate each other
2020-06-01 10:09:27
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"My brother and I are in our 20s. During the isolation of the place we returned to the parents' house and now we are clear, they both hate each other. We are convinced that they continue to live together for us. How can we tell you that there is no need. For us they can be separated, it makes no sense to stay together by pretending. Convinced, " wrote a girl in her letter to The Telegraph's psychologist.
Psychologist's answer:
Beloved, the more we think about isolation, the more we understand the mixture of feelings and turmoil it brought to people.
We learned a lot during those days, but not everything was a reflection of our real life, nor of our feelings.
Even when living with a couple under the same roof, it is impossible to understand their relationship. People are different, open, closed and the dynamics of any relationship is complex and mysterious. So you may have the right to write that you are convinced, but your conviction may not be the truth of the parents.
Even if what you have perceived is true, does it affect any of you? You do not live with them and this does not affect your emotional state. Do any of you children have problems with anxiety, addiction? Maybe they are really making the sacrifice for you, so as not to add another problem to you.
In the end, you would be ready to change the whole stability of your family (fake or not).
If you are convinced that you are coping, sit down with them and talk. The bottom line is to show care and compassion. Give your blessing for every decision.
* Source The Telegraph
