May daily happiness (not) be granted to us today!
2025-05-03 17:03:07
Manjola Lloja Bushati
At one of the meetings with readers of my book, the conversation with the psychologist who was moderating the meeting turned to the responsibility of communicating with children.
Somewhere in between my words I said "because the time I spend with my daughters..."
And a young man in his twenties intervened: why don't you say: the time I spend happily with my children...what is this expression...expense?
Of course, I gave him the immediate answer... not everything we do every moment of the day makes us happy, even spending time with our children. Many more things in life are responsibilities and processes... then happiness comes.
This excerpt came to mind yesterday when I saw an article posted by Tirana Post, which reflected the results of studies showing that today's young people are not happy.
These things are the reason for my note today.
People, even young people, should not and cannot be happy all the time.
Everyday happiness is a false mentality conveyed by social media, but real life is something else.
Uninterrupted happiness is neither realistic nor beneficial for emotional and mental development.
The many emotions that human beings experience occur for various reasons, and in addition, they have important functions that help us understand ourselves, face challenges, and make better decisions.
Boredom, sadness, irritability are signals from the body and mind that something is not right.
These emotions, in contrast to happiness, give value to the latter.
While it is very important for each of us to grow personally, we need to face challenges, learn, reflect, and change.
Superficial and constant happiness does not condition mental health. A healthy life includes a full range of emotions.
The goal is not to always be happy, but to be well, to know how to manage every feeling that comes our way.
So let's talk to our children, especially teenagers, who often talk back. Often, we do too.
All we see on social media and in the media is often content created specifically to market, advertise, products, behaviors, services. Life with the cameras off is something else.
Happiness is a process. It takes work and challenge to achieve it. And when you achieve it, something else happens, another battle must be won. Or even lost. But we must know how to enjoy losses as a process of recognition, growth, development.
And the last one for today. Much more than material, happiness is spiritual.
Much more than we experience it for ourselves, happiness is the projection of the other onto us, or of ourselves onto the other. When we do something good, when we share love, attention, and time with another, we multiply the feeling of joy within ourselves.
So if we want our children to know how to be happy, we must teach them to distinguish happiness, we must encourage them to communicate in real life, with others.
And happy moments will reward your effort.
