I'm sitting on the grass, at a time during the day that I take for myself. I'm on vacation with my family, but time for myself is something we should never neglect. And this can be called tip 1 for today😊
I am writing today's entry in the #truthsofsummer category, which Tirana Post has been publishing regularly every Saturday since January of this year.
This is week twenty-seven. "How much do you earn from these writings?" - is a question that I have been asked quite often these months. And while in our culture it is not very surprising to ask someone such a direct and private question, believe me, it is much more surprising the reaction of many people when my answer is that, I do this commitment voluntarily.
"How? Without a single penny?" There are some who continue to ask to make sure they understood me, because this "voluntarily" seems to them like a word brought from the past...
"But you don't even have the visibility to go viral... what do you gain from this?" This is where I find myself laughing.
Someone then ends by saying: "how can you not be lazy..." and here I really feel sorry for them.
I am a sociologist, profiled in communication for many, many years. But those who know me or may have followed me in this series of writings already know this. What I want to say today is that doing things that I like and that I think are useful is my way of being, in addition to work, commitments, parenting, family.
Having the space to express my thoughts, reflecting on readings and observations, is an opportunity that Tirana Post gave me without any hesitation, and I am truly grateful. Professionally, this space keeps me in constant communication with the public. Day after day I continue to read and confront my thoughts with researchers and personalities in the field of communication and child rearing around the world. (The spaces that developed societies give to them in their media are much more than in our country, unfortunately for us). Day after day I learn this way myself, and believe it or not, it seems that with these writings I have also created a community of parents (mainly mothers), who have begun to feel good that they are not alone in the way they think, or even to share information, feelings, thoughts. For example, the article "Minimaturity, maximum maturity" ( link here ) caused many, many mothers to write to me to thank me, or even to tell me how they couldn't win the battle with other mothers who encouraged their children to get limousines, dress like adults, spend endlessly on make-up, or even how they were simultaneously the worst mothers for their children for not allowing these things, but the best mothers themselves for insisting...
I'm telling you all this today for one reason: not everything we do needs to be materialized in money. Not every value we create is worth it if it brings us income.
I think we should show our children these things. Let's talk to them about the importance of a passion, a hobby...passing time...Show them that pursuing desires, passions or even contributing to society or community with something that we think we do well are elements that help our lives. They help us grow, but also make us feel useful. They make us discover new skills in ourselves, strengthen them. They satisfy us. All of these are very, very important. But I'm afraid that in order to better show our children this, we have to do it ourselves. And first of all, believe it. So this article is mainly for parents like me, who, while they have a lot of work, commitments and responsibilities, we must definitely find time for ourselves, for our passions, to do something that can bring us closer to the other, or that can make us and the other person feel good. And this is for today, advice number 2.
