By Manjola Lloja Bushati/ A little girl was upset when her mother did not fulfill a whim... and in the midst of her anger she said: I am a very upset and nervous queen...
Mom tried to answer her in the same way: I am also an upset queen...
But before she could finish the sentence, the little girl replied: No, you are a happy parent!
Beyond the smile that this expression brings, should we parents actually show our children only our calm side, our joy, the solution to everything?
There is no doubt that we adults must be aware that we should not "unload" the tensions, insecurities, and stresses of everyday life in front of our children, because we would greatly harm them. On the other hand, we must
Let's remember for ourselves and make it clear to our children, we are human beings and as such we have or have had our doubts, fears, and insecurities.
We are two weeks away from the start of the new school year for most children in our country. Many little ones who are starting this journey, but also teenagers in older grades, most likely have mixed feelings, fears, and unclear emotions about what awaits them. It seems to me that this could be a good time to be close to them and to share the doubts that we ourselves have had. It is very valuable to share with children difficult moments or times when we have had dilemmas.
In this way, we first help build an honest and healthy relationship. Children understand that even
The parent is not always safe or strong, because mom and dad are people...and weakness and insecurity are a normal part of life.
Let's use this holiday period or more free time with them to help them understand that there is nothing wrong with feeling bad or having questions. Tell your children stories from your life, but please, let's give up those with parents who were perfect as children.. kind, obedient, from those who become ridiculous by wanting to seem sacrificial and heroes of their youth at all costs.
We've all made a mistake, told a lie, had a crush on a teacher, copied something...we've thought long and hard about a friend, about an excursion...about a hairstyle that was funny, about a
beautiful clothes that we couldn't afford, for an exam we hadn't studied for...
But not just as children or students. We as parents, even as adults, don't always have to seem perfect. The illusion of perfection, of the hero parent, often creates distance and pressure.
Our efforts to overcome challenges or make difficult decisions, when we show them to our children, teach them that true strength does not lie in the absence of problems, but in the courage to face them.
The trust between us and our children will grow and our little ones will learn to be more open to the difficulties they encounter. Also to communicate them in the family, where they can probably often find the greatest supporters and understanders.
Are you a happy parent?
Yes, not because I never have doubts, nerves, or fears, but because I have a child like you, with whom I can talk about anything!
