The elevator of love, or the baby's journey in the mother's body
2025-10-18 19:45:27
Manjola Lloja Bushati
Do children's tails stick out when they drink coffee? That's what little Hana asked her mother while she was feeding her. I really liked the answer of her mother, artist Edona Reshitaj.
No, it doesn't come out. Coffee is not suitable for children. If you drink it, it gives you a stomach ache, it makes you feel sick, but it doesn't come out, that's not true.
When I saw the video posted by Edona, I laughed and immediately wrote: here's what I'll be writing about this week :)
And so I started thinking about how many lies we tell our children. Instead of answering them with #plaintruths, we often cut them short without considering the damage this causes.
The fear that what we said in our response will happen is the lesser evil. The lack of trust and the destruction of communication bridges with children can be really worrying. I have talked about this before, you can find some impressions in one of the first articles of this space. ( link to "The baby's house is being cleaned ").
With more or less this need to give an answer as close to the truth as possible, I have also found myself when children have asked me: How are babies made?
Many would tell the story of the stork in this case... Inspired by Western culture, this fable is very widespread in the world also for the good name that the stork has:)..a monogamous creature, living near the waters, elegant and white, that returns to its nest near people's houses. Andersen wrote a fairy tale on this subject in the late 1800s, and the world took this symbolism, now turned into a marketing lever.
But, let's be clear, I have nothing to do with the stork or the culture that built this fable. It's just that when they ask me, I think that in the century we live in, the answer should be a little closer to the truth. I don't like these stories "the stork brought you, we found you at the flower.."
And so I created another answer.
I tell children that at first, the idea for them arises in the minds of the parents. The parents think for a long time about wanting a baby, and how they will take care of it. Then the baby "comes down" to the heart. In order to grow strong and healthy, it needs to receive a lot of love from the parents. And so it goes to see up close the place where it will always be, even when it is so big that the mother's body can no longer contain it. Then it goes down to the baby's belly... to the baby's house that the mother "takes care" of keeping clean every month. And finally, when the baby is big and strong enough to be born, hop, it goes down to the door of the mother's body and there an adult doctor helps it out. The door is very easy if you have a cesarean section... I have even shown the sign to my daughters... otherwise you could say that the door is at the bottom of the mother's belly, and it only opens when the baby is ready to be born. :)
How does the baby move from the mind, to the heart, to the belly, to the door? Oh, yes, mom and dad create a "love elevator"...the baby moves with it, didn't you know?
Here is my answer. I think that's how I tell them two great truths, with which I would like to educate every child...babies are the responsibility of parents, so they should think carefully before deciding to become one...and above all, that love can make babies grow strong, healthy, and for them, there is always a place in the parent's heart.
Here I told you, without pretending to dispel myths. But if you, like me, don't want to tell your children that someone or something brought them into your family or to their mother... well, you can tell them "the baby's journey with the elevator of love". When they grow up and understand how this elevator works, maybe they will smile... but they will also have faith that you always tell them the truth. Simple, age-appropriate... just like only parents know ♡
